Impostor Syndrome. You do not believe that you are as good as people think you are, right? Maybe you are correct But it is a good thing. It means you have their attention. Make it count until you are caught. Until then, the world is your stage.
The Attributional Theory of Shame. In my studies, I have come across 2 major theories of shame – the information threat theory and the attributional theory of shame. According to the attributional theory of shame, the individual does not suffer shame because of what others think. Rather, they feel shame when the individual sees the…
Shameless is not an excuse Judging from my previous articles, I have established that shameless does not in any way mean to be without shame. Rather, it means the ability to make the best of shaming or a shameful experience. However, shameless is not an excuse to do the wrong things with the idea that…
Shame is a signal of disapproval. It could either be you to you or others to you. However, it is a narrative you chose to accept. Shame on you is a statement – one you can decide to answer to or decide to ignore. You can decide to feel bad, cry and hide but that…
Is shame good or bad? In the last article, I explained the origin of shame from an evolutionary perspective. In every research work I have stumbled upon, shame was described as positive and essential for most of our history. According to these studies, shame was used to promote social cohesion as their survival was highly…
Shame and Shameless Shame is a very difficult word and emotion to define and describe. Unlike other basic emotions like love, anger, sadness, etc., where the emotions are well communicated with corresponding actions, shame doesn’t have a definite display of emotion as it varies across different people and cultures. This, I presume, is fundamentally due…
Shame as a Social Emotion In the book, “In Defense of Shame,” the authors argue that shame is not necessarily a social emotion. According to them, shame does not have to involve the perspective of another person as we have the innate ability to evaluate ourselves as a failure or as worthless irrespective of how…
We all Need Superheroes Yesterday, Michael shared an image of a 7 year old Boy named Tom, who told his classmates that his uncle was superman. Nobody believed him and his teacher went on to report him to his parent to caution him on lying and wanting to deceive his mates. The mother verified his…
The Physics of Vulnerability Vulnerability is not Weakness Have you listened to someone share a story that you also suffer from? It inspires you. It gives you a sense of belonging that you are not alone. That you have someone that feels what you feel. That someone chose to be vulnerable and their vulnerability is…
Love Yourself This is the most difficult task you would ever have to do. Yet, it is the most important task. In a competition and comparison based society, there is always room to look down on Yourself. Could be your skin color, or teeth structure or nose shape or height or weight or intelligence or…
